You didn't lose yourself
You slowly Disappeared

Helping Midlife Women Reclaim Their Confidence, Their Spark, and Themselves… Without Guilt or Shame

You don’t need to have everything figured out to begin your comeback.

You just need one honest moment… and if you're here, something in you already knows it's time.

Hey love, I’m Melinda Kuszelyk — 27 years married, mum to three incredible young men, certified personal trainer, and Confidence & Identity Coach for Midlife Women.

But before any of that, I was a woman who had slowly faded out of her own life.

A woman who poured into everyone else until her own cup cracked and one day realised she didn't recognise the woman starting back at her.
A woman who stopped seeing herself in the mirror… and wasn’t sure how to find her way back.

I know what it feels like to shrink, to silence your needs, to lose your spark under expectations and exhaustion.
To move through your days on autopilot instead of feeling connected, confident, and alive again.
She was disconnected.
She didn’t need to be fixed.
She needed to remember who she was — and choose herself again.

My Turning Point Wasn’t Pretty, It Was Honest

I didn’t rise with a perfect plan. I started by telling the truth.

Burnt out, overwhelmed, and feeling like a stranger in my own body, I reached my breaking point.

One day, I looked at myself and whispered, “Enough.”

Enough guilt.
Enough shame.
Enough disappearing inside my own life and calling it normal.

That moment became the spark behind my signature approach,
The Fuck It Bucket Method. A mindset shift built on releasing expectations, people-pleasing, and pressure that keep so many midlife women stuck.

It gave me permission to stop abandoning myself and start returning to the woman I had buried.

Through this work, I…

Reclaimed my health and vitality without extreme measures
Created boundaries that protected my energy
Built habits that supported my body instead of punishing it
Rebuilt my confidence from the inside out

Now I guide midlife women through the same transformation from disconnected and depleted to deeply alive again.

What I Believe, Deep in My Bones

Women 40+ aren’t fading - they’re rising
Sexy is a feeling you activate - not a size you earn or permission you're given
Confidence grows from daily choices, not perfection
Your body is worthy of love at every stage
Rest is nourishment - hiding is not
Joy is a health strategy
And midlife is the beginning of your comeback - not conversational

I believe in reclaiming, not shrinking.
In boundaries that create freedom.
In choosing yourself without apology.
In celebrating progress instead of punishing your body.
In saying “fuck this” to guilt and shame so you can breathe again.

Because being messy and being powerful can exist in the same woman…
and she deserves to be seen.

If You’re Here, You’re Probably Craving…

To break free from the patterns that keep you stuck
To feel confident, vibrant, and fully alive in your body again
To set boundaries without guilt tagging along
To build habits that actually support your energy
To reconnect with who you are and what you desire
To reclaim your voice, your sensuality, and your joy

If that’s you, then this is your comeback era, and you don’t have to rise alone.
I’m here to walk beside you as you rebuild from the inside out.

No shame. No pressure.
Just reconnection, possibility, and the tools that help you feel like you again.

The Things That Light Me Up

Helping women stop disappearing inside their responsibilities
Watching women return to themselves, their desires, and their bodies
Supporting women as they set unapologetic boundaries
Showing midlife women they’re not “too late” - they’re right on time
Guiding women toward confidence through simple, steady actions
Celebrating every spark that returns

And just for fun…

🐷 I love pigs — they remind me to play, not just push
🌲 Glamping is where I rest and dream bigger
🍪 Baking sweet things is my happy place (and yes, it fits into real life)
✈ Travel feeds my heart, my mind, and my playlist

This isn’t just what I do.
It’s who I am, and I’m here to help you remember the woman you were before life got loud - and to step boldly into the woman you’re becoming now.